HOW TO OVERCOME SHYNESS AND IMPROVE PUBLIC SPEAKING
Being shy is not necessarily a personality trait according to experts, but it can be a very frustrating personality to deal with. Shy people are often reserved, deep thinkers who make great listeners and friends. Shyness is usually experienced when one is in a tight situation like facing strangers e.g. a panel of interviewers and having to speak in public. It has been suggested that there are no instant cures for shyness. One way of managing shyness is to create a you who is not shy. Forget about yourself to forget yourself-conscious shyness.
Adequate preparation for any up-coming event e.g. An interview will boost your confidence and remove or reduce your shyness. Another way is for you to practice self-therapy by writing down thoughts and fears, examine the root of your shyness and deal with the courses. Other tips that will aid you include:
- Learn to recognize your own body language, and how others may be perceiving you.
- Develop your listening skill and a lot of talking while in groups of people.
- Start small. Ask people question, when they give you answer, ask a follow up as this may induce the other person to start a conversation.
COPING WITH SPEECH IMPEDIMENT:
Ideally, organization needs should inform its includement strategies. A study published in the journal of fluency disorders in 1983 showed that 85% of employers agreed that stuttering decreased a persons employability and potentiality for career advancement. It has been established that a lot of employers rather rather than listen and be patient openly discriminate against people with speech impediment especially stammerers. Is it justified that employers should discriminate against this category of applicants in career that is not in the fields where verbal communication skills are a primary focus?
Expert’s opinions is that many employers do not know how to handle this condition, as most people with this condition can be assisted to control their stammering.
According to Amechi Ogbonna, despite growing employer sensitivity to the condition, many stutters still face challenges when looking for job. Some employers may associate stuttering with their own fear, uncertainty, emotional conflict and nervousness. It is a common thing for employers or recruiters to become impatient or frustrated as they wait for stammerers to complete sentences.
If you are an applicant with speech impediment, what are the things you can do?
- You can hardly hide it but it can be managed.
- Address issue as brief as possible.
- Speak slowly.
- Sign for the therapy session to fine-tune your speech.
- If asked, disclose it and tell the employer what you can bring to the table (the value you can add) having learnt from the condition.